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Chapter 1: What To Do About Conflict
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Conquering Conflict: Techniques and Strategies For Resolving Blended Family Conflict
By Emily Bouchard, MSSW, blended and bio family coach, 20/20P Founding Contributor
Popular Myth #2: I need my stepkids to like me.
Here’s one of the most helpful secrets to being a successful stepparent: Be willing to be hated. The reason this is so powerful is that when you don’t need your stepchildren to love you, approve of you, or appreciate you, you are then free to be who you are NO MATTER WHAT! Stepparents will often avoid setting boundaries or limits for fear of not being liked, and because they don’t want to be perceived as “evil”. The truth is that when you stop taking care of yourself for fear of not being liked (in any relationship), you are being “evil” towards yourself. Then you tend to become angry and resentful towards others. Start by liking yourself and doing what you need to do in order to take care of yourself, and stop needing the children in your home to like you.
So let’s look at anger from a new perspective, by answering the following question:
What’s Under The Anger?
Have you ever found yourself reacting from a place of anger and irritation towards your children? Of course, we all do. Have you ever wondered about your reaction and how strong it was? Chances are there’s something below your reaction that’s waiting to be expressed and understood.
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